Pity Party First, Kick Ass Later

Sister, I know how it is because I've been there. The world is screaming "calm down" but you know that that's not an option. You want to scream, swear, stomp your feet, pout, binge watch netflix with your favorite comfort food, curl up in a ball, cry, and make the world revolve around your pain. Well guess what? You should. 

I am a firm believer that you must pity party first, and kick ass later. 

Success and inspiration can be found in the lowest of places. Let yourself have a pity party, eat an entire tub of ice cream, binge watch trash tv, scream at the universe; then you will be able to tackle your issues and conquer the world. Pity Party…

Ugly Self-Care is a THING! 

To some people, self care means putting on your favorite facial mask with a bath bomb. However to a lot of us, self care means ugly crying and screaming at the "master creator" for what they have done for you. I call this "ugly self-care" but in reality, it has the most beautiful results. Let me tell you why this works: 

  • You cannot overcome a victim mindset without first thinking like a victim. 
  • You cannot live a happy and productive life with pains and challenges clouding your brain. 
  • It is okay to experience emotions; they are natural. 
  • If you do not let yourself feel, your body and spirit takes on the burdens of the emotional body.

The Victim Mindset vs. The Hero Mindset

Be the hero in your story and overcome that victim mindset. 

Be the hero in your story and overcome that victim mindset. 

A good story begins with a naive character, the challenge that they endure, and their heroic rise to overcome. A victim mindset is someone who is naive, faces a challenge, and lives in the realm of things like "why me" or "story of my life." They believe that unjust things will always happen to them; thus attracting more negativity into their life. To be a hero, we must first be the victim. Experience victimhood. Figure out your escape. Figure out the obstacles you have to overcome. Turn yourself into a survivor. 

Best Way To Move Clouds Is To First Storm

What happens when the sky is overcast? You pray for it to just rain, thunder, lightning- anything!!! to bring back your beautiful blue sky. Let your body cry it out, let your body scream it out, punch a pillow, do what you need to do to recover. If you keep those pent up emotions inside, your brain will suffer. The Director of the Psychiatry Research Lab at St. Paul-Ramsey Medical Center states, "People say they feel better after crying and our data shows this is so." Frey's studies have proven that crying is the body's natural response to any sort of stress, and that many feel comforted and relieved after letting it out. It has been shown that lack of tears can contribute to stress and brain disease down the road.

If you don't let it OUT, your body and aura take on the burdens of keeping it pent up inside

Built up anger, aggression, and stress lingers in the energy body and can cause migraines, tension, and inflammation. It can also contribute to poor gut health like indigestion and constipation. Not to mention your energy suffers greatly. Your aura will be clouded. People will come into contact with you less and less because your energy is no longer compelling. Friends may disappear or treat you differently. Your subtle body will suffer. 

Take a look at how keeping our emotions bottled up effects the chakras. This is what makes it so important to experience our feelings, thoughts, and emotions. If you keep everything pent up inside, your subtle body suffers; and thus creates a more p…

Observe Your Emotions, Then Let Your Emotions Pass

There is a great meditation known as "Leaves on the Stream." In this exercise, you take every thought you have and place it on a leaf floating down the river. This allows you to observe that thought or emotion, and watch it pass. Learning this technique can help you in your day-to-day life by not beating yourself up for experiencing an emotion but also not holding on to that emotion. It helps you separate yourself from that emotion by extending an awareness, and also can help you detach from it to let it float away. Listen below. 

Set this as your phone background for a peaceful reminder whenever you check the time or texts. Leaves on a stream mindfulness exercise will help you observe and let go. 

Set this as your phone background for a peaceful reminder whenever you check the time or texts. Leaves on a stream mindfulness exercise will help you observe and let go. 

It is human nature to feel, and dangerous to push our feelings aside. To delve into your emotional responses is the ultimate form of courage and strength. To let the tears pour out, the cries and screams be heard, to let yourself be in a state of darkness. Once you are submerged in the darkness you will be able to find your way to the light easier. If you harbor these emotions within you for too long, they will escalate and worsen. PLEASE allow yourself a pity party for whatever bad news you have experienced... and then conquer from there. 

When Does the Pity Party End? 

Deadlines are so important! This will help prevent you from letting your pity party spiral out of control into a prolonged state of depression and victimhood. Mine is anywhere from 1-3 days then you can begin faking it. You may not be completely healed, but you will feel a lot better. Over time, faking it can help you return to your normal self. It can help patch up the holes that were left open after such a big release of emotion. It can replenish your soul and counteract the difficult emotions that you just experienced. 

What is Your Ugly Self-Care / Pity Party Ritual? 

I LOVE to hear from my readers! Let me know what your go-to ugly self care routine is or how letting it out has helped you feel good enough to conquer your goals and kick ass! 

Top 5 Healing Crystals for Manifesting Wealth

Healing crystals are powerful energetic tools to help aid in manifestation. Knowing which specific crystals attract different energetic qualities can help guide you to picking out the crystal for your needs. The saying by Rumi, “What you seek is seeking you”, is one of my most favorite reminders of the power of the law of attraction and the importance of directing our energy into the things we want out of life. One area that is commonly focused on for manifestation is wealth and abundance, using prosperity centered crystals to make abundance grids or simply wearing them can make a huge impact on your life. Here are my top 5 crystals for wealth and abundance. 

Here's to manifesting cash flow and higher income in your life! These healing crystals will bring you money

 

#5 Malachite- This powerful dark green healing stone is great for attracting money and good fortune. Its vibrations attract financial abundance and success. This stone is also great to use when trying to manifest one’s deepest desire out of a transitional phase in life, such as starting a new job or moving. This empowering stone should be worn or placed in your surrounding environment. Learn more about the amazing stone Malachite by clicking here!

#4 Moss Agate- Known as the stone of new beginnings, this earthy crystal attracts new opportunities for success. It can help you embrace new and unexpected changes and promotes balance, while energetically attracting wealth and success. This stone is great to add to a crystal grid or carry with you. Wanting to use this stone for success? Check out some of THESE other crystals by clicking here!

#3 Pyrite- It's captivating to watch this beautiful silver to gold stone sparkle. It is often called the stone of luck. Pyrite is a powerful healing stone for manifestation and attracts abundant wealth to the user. It encourages generating abundance through one’s own power and connects you to the warm energy of the Sun. Wear this stone or add it to a wealth centered abundance grid.

Check out this Pyrite Piece wrapped by Rae of And Zen Some! It is sure to bring some wealth your way. 

Check out this Pyrite Piece wrapped by Rae of And Zen Some! It is sure to bring some wealth your way. 

#2 Green Aventurine- This light green stone is the ideal crystal for prosperity and luck. Manifesting good health, fortunate events, and opportunities this stone is excellent to have at all times. It enhances one’s leadership and can help manifest new job opportunities. Excellent to wear during a job interview or just to keep close for good luck! Click the photo below for yours. 

These green aventurine pocket stones are perfect to keep in your wallet, in your pocket, or at your work station. Do that, sit back, and watch as the fortune comes your way. 

These green aventurine pocket stones are perfect to keep in your wallet, in your pocket, or at your work station. Do that, sit back, and watch as the fortune comes your way. 

 

#1 Citrine- This radiantly happy healing crystal is my personal favorite for manifestation. Its strong vibrations promote success and abundance and attract unexpected instances of good luck and positivity. Citrine also encourages confidence in the user and can stimulate wealth and prosperity. Place a piece in your wallet to attract monetary wealth. Excellent stone to place all around your environment as well as wear. Click the photo below if you want a Citrine necklace of your own!

Hands down the best crystal for manifestation & wealth! Wrapped by And Zen Some. 

Hands down the best crystal for manifestation & wealth! Wrapped by And Zen Some. 

Article contributed by Victoria Shuler

 

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